It's Mother's Day and mothers all across the country are being taken out to dinner and presented with cards, flowers, and other tokens of love and appreciation. Yesterday, at Wal-Mart, I was in line at the checkout behind a girl who looked to be about 13. She had a single rose, a bottle of perfume and a package of gum laid out in front of her. She took a wad of $1 bills from her pocket and counted them out. She had just enough to cover the gifts that she intended to give her mom.
I heard an interview the other day with mothers from different parts of the country and the common theme was that no mother thought she was perfect. They all felt that they had let down their children in one way or the other. None of them expressed that they were satisfied with their performance in their role as mother.
My mom wasn't perfect. She did a lot of things that I needed to forgive her for later. But from where I am right now in my consciousness, I believe that she was the perfect mother for me. Can you say that about your mom?
There are two things that I believe that help me embrace this idea. One is that we do not die. Our bodies die, but our souls live on. When you believe that nothing is truly fatal and that we will live on in some form or another, whatever happens to us in this current lifetime cannot endanger the eternal nature of our souls.
The second thing I believe is that our souls choose to be born into a certain situation and body for the purpose of learning lessons and experiencing life from a different perspective from the last lifetime (yes, I believe in reincarnation). In other words, we may actually choose our own mother and father. Maybe we've been with them in other lifetimes and perhaps we have even been their parent that time around.
Not only would we choose our mother to learn lessons in our relationship with her, but perhaps we agreed to provide her with an experience that her soul needed for its spiritual evolvement.
The book, The Little Soul and the Sun by Neale Donald Walsch is a wonderful illlustration of this idea. The "Little Soul" decides that it wants to learn about the concept of forgiveness and another soul agrees to show up in its life to do something that would require the Little Soul to forgive. It helps us to see the acts of others as more of a gift to us rather than something that we might see as needing to forgive. It also can help us see that perhaps we are not the victims in life, but maybe the orchestrators of situations in our lives for our highest good (remember, we are eternal, spiritual beings having a human experience).
As you consider your own mother, whether you saw her as the most wonderful mother in the world or a woman who you would have gladly traded in for a new model, think about what you learned in your relationship with that mother. What did you learn about yourself? What spiritual growth has come from your relationship with this other soul? Who are you as a person that you wouldn't have been without her presence in your life? Can you truly acknowledge that although this woman may not have been perfect, that maybe she was the perfect mother for you to evolve spiritually and awaken to the beauty and power of your true nature? It may be a big step for you, but it can be life changing. Try working with this idea and see what happens.